Popularity? Yours? Oh boy. Yeah, absolutely, come on in!

So, there are usually 2 ways people deal with their own popularity.

1) They become even more public to gain more attention.

2) They become very private, to be able to live normal.

Depending on the type of person you are, I’d say, decide where you are right now. Do you find yourself doing more and more things to get attention? Or do you find yourself getting really private, more private than you used to be?

If you are liking the attention you are getting, then continue in a way that is sustainable. Try to remember that the more people see you, the more dirt people can find on you later, so be very careful around parties or social gatherings, especially if you are someone who likes alcoholic drinks, etc. Do not drink at all, if possible, especially if your PR people are working around the clock to keep you looking clean and upright even if you were anything but the night before. Know that sometimes too much attention is bad, and notoriety is not something you want.

I would suggest that you make sure you are feeling fulfilled with your personal and professional relationships, so you don’t end up doing anything stupid in your attempt to grab more attention when you just feel lonely.

For my privacy people. Be careful not to seclude yourself so much as to end up in throes of depression. My extroverts! If you hole up somewhere, you will be depressed in days, and you’ll have no idea why, because you are popular, and you are holed up at home in obscurity, talking to no one. My introverts, no person is designed to go on alone without talking to anyone for months at a time, okay? No one. I need you talking with people – regularly.

Think of this as an opportunity to be a leader. A role model.

Yes, there are many celebrities who are anything but good leaders or role models! It’s a shame. A real tragedy, really.

You don’t have to follow suit. You can lead by being graceful with what you have been gifted with in this season of your life. You can work extra hard to acknowledge those who may be in need of some advocacy, because if you recognize said minority group, then everyone who follows you tries very hard to recognize said minority group in their lives.

It is such a wonderful opportunity.

I know I have people getting very light-headed, and I want you to come back to earth and work on normal relationships again, even if they don’t give you the high of everyone’s likes out there.

And I want my hermits to come back to being normal too. Please show your face, put on a smile, enjoy the crowd and the energy, and be kind! How many leaders and role models do we look up to because of their kindness? Many! You can join them in their ranks, no problem.

Whether you are in the public sphere or you retreat to a private space, be kind. Not everyone gets to be in your shoes, so be sure you wear those shoes of kindness and be genuine to you too.

You know how we will watch old clips of Princess Diana, and almost always someone quips, “She’s so nice!” And it really is true? You’re in her shoes! They are shoes of kindness, and no one gets away with being popular without being nice. Because that’s the way she was too.

If you are truly popular, it is because you are nice.

To be more precise —

You are popular because you are kind.

Continue to be kind while you walk through the annals of popularity.

It is how you will be remembered in the end.